There are new ways to access deeper levels of satisfaction and energy during sex and one of these profound paths is represented by tantric sex. Its holistic approach celebrates the idea of desire and the sacredness of the body as a shared expression of pleasure. This way, with mindful awareness, sex becomes a transformative energy that can help you release shame or any other kind of trauma that might be associated with the physical act. Through erotic energy, you can experience the most soul-shattering orgasms ever and get closer to the divine.
What is tantric sex?
The word tantra comes from Sanskrit and it refers to the union of masculine and feminine forces within all of us, beyond heaven and earth, beyond the separate sense of self. The term translation “weave” alludes to the collapsing polarities and their ecstatic union that transcends life. As we learn how to harness this intimate experience, we can achieve the transcendent truth. Basically, what tantric sex does is that it aligns our passion and sexual energy with our spirit, heart and the sense of goodness we have in our lives. When all these come into balance, sex becomes empowering, healing and transcendent.
A profoundly beautiful experience, a magic interpersonal connection that fills the lives of the partners with devotion and respect. A kind of intimacy that evokes our highest self, expands our intuition and brings us on nearly psychedelic realms where the orgasmic possibility is better than imagined.
Sounds pretty good, no? But let’s see how we can achieve this devotional dimension through sex. Well, it takes gentles caresses, slow embraces and a focus on the movement of energy between your body and your partner’s. It’s all about being present in that specific moment, taking things slowly with relaxation, building the excitement and the enjoyment until you’re no longer able to hold more pleasure. Basically, you can make love for hours getting close to orgasm and backing off, exploring edging before flipping over into orgasm.
If done with awareness, all sexual energy can become tantric and dive into intense instincts and animalistic pleasure, when your body’s native intelligence takes over, awakening your full-body pleasure capacity. You can also have a submission -dominance tantric experience as well. The whole idea is to use awareness so you’ll feel the entire sexual energy in your whole body not specifically localized in the genitalia.
Tantric sex positions and practices to try.
- Create a sacred space.
To be able to enjoy this session of intimacy, you need to disconnect from the mundane world and reconnect to the world of pleasure. For this to happen, you have to purify yourself and your space. Start by showering and changing into something beautiful and declutter your apartment from laundry piles or unnecessary objects. Express your intentions and be fully present in the moment. Tell your partner “I want to show you how much I love you with my body”
- Eye gazing (or “soul gazing”).
It is very important to reveal yourself to the other completely, to let the other see you with everything that you are or feel. For this, you can look into his/her eyes while holding hands and gaze softly into their soul. Look for that divine spark in his eyes, notice the emotions and sensations that come up and enjoy the sacredness of the moment you share together. If you’re tempted to look away, close your eyes for a second and reopen them again. In the end it’s not a starring contest.
- Hands on hearts circuit.
After eye gazing and holding hands, you can nicely flow, bringing your hands to the heart, as you feel love for your partner rushing into your heart. With their consent, move your right hand on their heart so they can place their right hand on your heart. Try to sync your breaths, slowly, deeply. Every time you inhale, receive love together with air and every time you breathe send love to your partner right down your arm. Enjoy this love circuit for about 10 breaths.
- Tantric massage.
A very important part of tantric sex, tantric massage can lead to multiple orgasms for both partners, especially if they get a chance to tune into their sexual energy. Use your hands along your partners’ body to feel every new sensation and discover how they open up. Consider trying lingam and yoni massage (for penises and vagina) and tantric nipple play.
- The yab-yum position.
The yab-yum positions represent the union of two divine masculine and feminine energies: Shiva and Shakti. The partners are switching roles, representing both energies, the one that is physically penetrative- Shiva and the one that is physically receptive – Shakti. The base partner, Shiva sits on a pillow cross-legged, in a holding position with his arms around the waist of his partner while the other sits fully in his lap. Their heads are cheek to cheek or forehead to forehead so their chakras are aligned and the sexual energy moves upward. Once they come into alignment, they will sync their breathing and begin to move together until they find a rhythm, flow, activating their sexual energy through arching, swirling and undulations. One of the partners gives energy and the other receives. The synchronized breathes can expand the sexual energy lighting up every cell in their body. Partners can use subtle or vigorous movements by drawing energy with their spine, pelvis and third eye. This position can be practiced naked or with clothes, it can lead to penetration or to a full-body orgasm without penetration.
The purpose of tantric sex.
Most people have all kinds of expectations and goals but this kind of pressure can inhibit the sexual ritual. The whole idea is to free yourself from all these purposes, to throw all expectations through the window and redefine sex by making it more playful, more connected and more meaningful. Tantric sex is not a race to reach to orgasm but an endless possibility to discover yourself and the other. However tantric sex leads to long-lasting powerful orgasm, non-ejaculatory orgasms for men and multiple orgasms for women. It can lead to awakening and personal development and it gives us a glimpse of the divine.
Benefits of tantric sex.
- Making the most of sex
- Releasing shame or another sexual blockage
- Healing from sexual trauma
- Accessing a superior level of pleasure
- Discovering your body through powerful orgasms
- Tuning into subtle, divine energy
- Experiencing non-ejaculatory orgasms
- Developing a profound connection with your partner
- Learning to live in the moment
- Improving the mind-body-spirit connection
Tantric sex allows us to unlock our sexuality and get connected to our hearts and spirits, leaving aside the messed-up cultural conditioning and the stigma that is usually associated with sex. It allows us to become our best versions of ourselves and to actualize our purpose in the world.