You already spent 30 days in quarantine. You’re bored, alone, stressed out and …horny. What can you do about it? Masturbate, of course. Not only playing solo can get you a total-body relaxation but as Leah Millheiser – MD, at Stanford University Medical Center- says, it can also release stress and anxiety.
So, if you don’t have other plans tonight, we recommend to start your self-care routine, especially if your levels of stress are soaring. Masturbation can keep your vagina healthy by increasing the blood flow to the genitals and it can also enhance your sex life, helping you get more comfortable in bed. Not to mention that when you orgasm, your body releases a powerful hormone, called oxytocin that makes you feel happy or closer to the person near you.
In case you don’t know how to pleasure yourself or if you just want to take your orgasm to the next level, we’re here with some expert approved tips and tricks. Let’s begin!
- Bust out a mirror.
The best way to enjoy your body is to first know your body. Janet Brito, a PhD sex therapist recommends to use a hand-held mirror as a way to find out more about your vulva’s anatomy and identify your clitoris, also known as the home of 15.000 nerve endings or let’s call it simple: your best friend. This button like nub is just the tip of an orgasmic iceberg and it can get aroused and erect just like a penis when stimulated. So girls, pay attention to this little friend because here’s where all the masturbation magic happens.
- Get to know all your ladybits.
Once you know what you have down there, start exploring all your ladybits, touching them gently and with curiosity to figure out which one is more sensitive, what feels uncomfortable, ticklish or what will arouse you during a solo session or in bed with your partner.
- Set the ~mood~.
It is very important to create a relaxing atmosphere in your home, just as if you were getting ready to have sex with another person. So if you usually listen to your favorite playlist or light candles, why not putting the same amount of effort when you want to focus on yourself? A clean decluttered space, a private place free of interruption can set you in the mood and prepare you to identify what feels pleasurable, increasing the chances to reach that big O.
- Break out your favorite lingerie.
Don’t wait for the right moment to wear your sexiest lingerie. You don’t need an audience to feel sexy so look for that special lace panties you haven’t worn since day Z and we’ll promise it will set you in the right mood for your next-level solo sex.
- Put your phone or any other distraction away.
To put it plain and simple, masturbation is “me time” and it shouldn’t be interrupted by the outside world. You need to focus on what’s going on inside your body and your mind is a powerful pleasure enhancer that can help you reach orgasm sooner. So don’t let anything distract you while masturbating and practice mindfulness as much as you can.
- Lock your door.
Although it might seem obvious, so many people forget about locking their door. So, if you want to make sure that your mind is centered on play time and not worried of someone barging in, don’t forget this minor detail, even if you’re home alone.
- Tap into your inner goddess.
Everyone can feel less than satisfied with some body parts like the belly but we all need to do ourselves a favor and learn to love our body for what it is. Especially when we’re masturbating, we need to focus more on the sensuality of our curves and less on the parts we’re not satisfied with. Studies have shown that a positive body image is often linked with sexual satisfaction, so tap into your inner goddess and discover in what ways your body can offer you pleasure.
- Use your imagination.
This is the perfect moment to discover what turns you on and delve into different fantasies. You don’t need to think of your partner, nor at the erotic novels or porn scene you’ve seen, unless you’re into them. You need to let your imagination run wild without questioning yourself and your sexuality and discover without judgements what arouses you.
- Bring in visuals.
If you get distracted or can’t imagine something that will get you off, you can give yourself a video scene to watch, pretending you’re involved in it. Men use visual support all the time, so you can do it as well. Break out the big guns and enjoy any sexy magazine or movie you want.
- Lube it up.
If vaginal dryness is a problem for you, add some silicone or water-based lubes to stimulate your genitals and reduce friction. That little extra wetness comes in handy when masturbating and it can also help you not break your silicone sex toy, or your new buzzing friend. Studies have shown that 50% of individuals reach orgasm easier when using lube.
- Use your fingers.
The best way to engage in masturbation is to stimulate your vagina with your fingers, especially if you don’t know yet what makes your body tick. Once you tap in the right mindset, you can build up that sensation that will bring you to orgasm.
- Try different positions.
Since there isn’t one position that works for everyone you need to experiment which one fits your personal taste better. Some women like to lay on their back or to lift their legs into V shape. Others like to rub their clit against the bed or to splay the legs out straight. Move around and discover what’s your thing.
- Change your masturbation technique up.
Even if you discover something that turn you on, you might want to avoid falling into the trap of always using your hands or always laying on the back so you won’t get bored. The options are endless, look for inspiration online and always try something new.
- Take your solo-sex session into the shower.
Do you know who is going to be your new BF every time you’re taking a shower: a hand-held shower head with a stream of water pointing onto your clit. Say hello to your quick and easy vibrator and enjoy that warm pulsating sensation on one of the most sensitive parts of your body.
- Insert your fingers.
If you’ve just had a great clitoral stimulation, you can pull into the self-service station and enjoy some penetrative masturbation as well. Whether you’ll use your fingers, a vibrator or a phallic-shaped object, you’ll be one step closer to orgasm and to becoming your best sex educator.
- Play with toys.
There are all sorts of sex toys out there from magic wands to clitoral vibrators and oral-sex stimulators. All of them can bring pleasure to another level, pulsing an orgasm out of you, using suction or oscillating pressure and getting more intense as you press them into your skin. Try them all and treat yourself right!
- Move your body.
Even if you might feel temped to masturbate lying comfy on your bed, we recommend you to move your body, to rock those hips or move your pelvis in a 8-style motion to maximize the sensations you’re feeling.
- Tease yourself.
Getting yourself to orgasm means to build sexual tension and back off when you’re about to climax. Discover your most erogenous zones and learn the edging technique, drawing out the pleasure before your grand finale.
- Combine multiple types of stimulation.
To add up some serious pleasure combine stimulation for vaginal, anus, inner thighs, cervix, clit and allow yourself to let your hands wander. Get creative, you can reach orgasm even from touching your nipples.
- Take your time.
Take your time to get comfortable with yourself, to try different positions, different toys and all the stuff we wrote about. It is all about your pleasure so don’t rush your “me time” but savor every sensation. Experience is the key! If nothing happens, it’s still ok, you don’t need to impress anyone…just return when you’re more in the mood.
- Break away from guilt.
Never feel guilty from masturbating too much or on the wrong images/fantasies. Stop playing the shame game. Masturbation is healthy so you can practice it every single day. If on the other hand your solo moments interfere with your life, than you might need to adjust your priorities.
